10 Hidden Ways We Subconsciously Escape Trauma – Without Even Realising It

Hi, I’m Rosy Williams, and I’m about to share something incredibly close to my heart. This is not just an article—it’s my journey, my healing, and the silent truth many of us carry. If you’ve ever felt like you're floating through life, avoiding something painful but not sure what it is, you're not alone. Trauma hides in quiet corners of our minds, and the ways we subconsciously escape trauma often go unnoticed—even by ourselves.

I lived through years of trauma and didn’t even realise the toll it was taking until it started showing up in the strangest ways. This blog is my way of healing aloud—with real-life proof and personal experience to guide you through.

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Overworking – Productivity as a Disguise

I used to wear "being busy" like a badge of honour. From dawn to midnight, I filled every second with something “useful.” But behind that hustle was a fear of stillness—because stillness meant facing the pain.
Overworking to avoid trauma is more common than we admit. It feels like ambition, but it’s often just distraction.

"I thought I was climbing a ladder of success, but I was really running from a shadow."

Always Being the Joker – Using Humour to Mask Hurt

Everyone knew me as the funny one. I could crack a joke in any room, but I used laughter to cover my brokenness.
Humour became a shield. Using humour to escape trauma is subtle but real.
It keeps others comfortable while we suffer in silence.

"I made others laugh, so they’d never ask why I wasn’t smiling inside."

Scrolling Endlessly on Social Media

Every night, I would mindlessly scroll for hours. Instagram reels. TikToks. Pinterest pins. I told myself it was just “unwinding,” but deep down, I was numbing emotional pain.
Digital distraction is one of the most powerful hidden trauma escapes.

"We escape reality in 60-second videos, but healing waits in the silence we avoid."

People-Pleasing – Seeking Approval to Avoid Ourselves

I said “yes” to everyone. Every favour. Every call. Every plan. Why? Because I feared being rejected.
Trauma from childhood made me believe I had to earn love. I was addicted to people-pleasing as a trauma response.
It’s a coping mechanism rooted in deep emotional abandonment.

"I forgot my own voice trying to be the echo for everyone else’s needs."

Overeating or Undereating – Using Food to Control Chaos

There were days I would binge on comfort food, and other days I could barely eat.
Emotional eating is a hidden trauma escape. It's how our body tries to self-soothe.
When trauma disrupts our sense of safety, food becomes a form of control.

"When I couldn’t fix my pain, I tried to fix my plate instead."

Avoiding Eye Contact – Fear of Being Truly Seen

Eye contact felt like exposure. When someone looked at me deeply, I felt they could see my pain—the pain I hadn’t even allowed myself to see.
Avoiding eye contact is one of those non-verbal trauma signs we rarely talk about.

"Sometimes the hardest mirror is another person’s gaze."

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Toxic Relationships – Repeating Familiar Pain

I dated people who mirrored the very trauma I tried to escape.
Subconsciously, I was drawn to what I knew—even if it hurt.
Trauma bonding is a painful but very real escape method we don’t always see coming.

"I mistook chaos for chemistry, because peace felt unfamiliar."

Escaping into Fiction – Living in Stories Instead of Life

Netflix series. Romance novels. Fantasy games. I disappeared into other worlds.
Escaping through fantasy gave me a break from my reality, but also kept me from facing it.
While stories can heal, they can also distract us from our own narratives.

"I lived a thousand lives, so I wouldn’t have to live mine."

Constantly Changing Goals – Fear of Finishing Means Facing Ourselves

I started so many things—new jobs, side hustles, hobbies—but rarely finished.
Why? Because success meant I’d have to sit with myself—and I didn’t want to.
Changing directions constantly is a way to stay on the run internally.

"I chased new beginnings so I wouldn't have to confront any endings."

Daydreaming – Fantasy of Escape Without Movement

I spent hours imagining “a better life.” A new city. A new love. A new me.
But I wasn’t taking real steps—I was escaping in my mind.
Daydreaming is often a safer place for trauma survivors than reality.

"I built castles in my mind because my real world felt like ruins."

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Why These Escapes Matter

Each one of these was part of my own healing journey from trauma. If any of these resonated with you, that’s not weakness—that’s awareness. And awareness is the first breath of healing.
The truth is, subconscious trauma responses can rule our lives unless we shine a light on them.

And I’m not here to shame you—I’m here to tell you: You’re not broken. You’re coping. But now, it’s time to heal.

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This article wasn’t easy to write. It’s personal. Raw. Vulnerable. But I believe the more we share our truths, the more we all begin to heal.
So if you felt something reading this—if a little light flickered in your soul—that’s the start.
Let it grow.

"You don’t have to run from your pain. You just have to start walking toward your truth." – Rosy Williams